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The thing to realize is that public vrchat worlds are essentially a real life club. The people that generally hang out there (ignoring the skiddie desktopper crowd for a moment) are socially comfortable in that sort of environment, i.e. normies. The few times you'll run into other nerds, they'll likely be in the same situation: new to the game, checking out the public worlds and being appalled by the people there, then quickly logging off. Just like the internet as a whole, you can't count on the fact that somebody is on vrchat (or the internet) means they're also a nerd.

The /vrg/ friends+ meetups are honestly kind of the same way, but rather than a club, it's like a big house party; a bit kinder to nerds but still the domain of the "normie". /vrg/ used to be small enough that you could count on everyone there being enough of an autist to have stumbled upon this shitty general in 4chan, but not anymore.

So again like real life, the best place to find actual nerds to shoot the shit with is not the club, but the smaller interest groups. Try joining the mahjong autists, the anime viewings, multiplayer assetto corsa or beat saber, neos, pavlov. contractors, minecraft. You'll have something to to do to break the ice, then pick up conversations from there in small groups.