>join a pub server
>people laugh, bantz (actual banter)
>they comment on profile pictures
>they sometimes say my voice is hot

>join vrg
>dead silence, whatever I say is ignored to the point I wonder if my mic works
>all comments go on 3rd party software, usually angry comments or the usual circlejerking that happens no matter if they were playing or not
>banter is calling someone a retard or a faggot and shitposting him in the thread

My advice to newfriends is - either prepare yourself to do the whole vrg thing, daily vrchat and discord monitoring included, events, headpatting, fotm anime watching and sleeping and talking about the gay all the time or accept that if games dont have the numbers of players to support public games VR isnt there yet.