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More often than not, people who say to "tone down fake nice-ness" are the ones that are critically psychotically paranoid and deluded to the point they cannot trust people and see evil and malice where it is not.

Those who do not allow self-segregation depending on individual experiences and respecting people's ability to pick and choose their friends and who they interact with are a lot of times psychopaths that want their prey's to be defenseless and to just put up with them taking advantage and manipulating their prey.

It is very important for a society to have it's individuals be individuals that have the capabilities and full arsenal to be as much of a dick or as much of a nice person as they want to be and choose who they associate with.
Without this core values, a community falls easy prey to those who wish to disrupt and leech from it.