>>372462053
I see you didn't get anything of what i said.
Imagine if both sides do the "Saint", as you called it, suddenly obsession to an extent is fine, as its not unhealthy levels of it but actual honest Love.
Because you keep your obsession in Check in favour of your Partners' feelings. She/he does the same and that balances itself out and you can both obsess again. But never crossing the line to step over them, as that would be selfish.
Its not at all as sterile as you imagine it, especially as People aren't perfect and some selfish phases will surface, but those can be overcome, as both sides see the Relationship as good and want to continue.
Again, too difficult a Topic to put it all in small Message Chunks.