>>392855730
honestly, I think that people being rude and hostile is fine as long as they're not mean spirited and you can still have an honest conversation with them.
as for tips, maybe try to give yourself a review? since you know you come of as a bit rude, maybe you have an idea of time where someone thought that about you? Maybe there's something you could have done differently. maybe you could be a bit less confrontational or sometimes talk less. it really depends on what's happened but it often helps me to reflect back on how I've acted and what mistakes I might have made.
Keep in mind I'm not an authority either, doing what's good for you is usually the best. If you want to talk about it or something else, feel free to PM me or tell me on VRC. I hope you can get better at what you want to do anon!