>>359043406
think about 4 this way

lets say you really like playing call of duty (feel free to replace this in your head with something you like doing often). a friend of yours noticed you like playing call of duty because you mentioned it a few times.
suddenly one day that friend messages you and goes "hey I'm about to play call of duty, I think it would be fun if you joined too, want to play together?"

how would this make you feel?

1. pissed off, how dare they invite me to do a thing I like together. unfriend and block.
2. happy, that person remembered about me that I like this, and on top of that they're inviting me to do it together. lets go!

if you make other people happy, they start thinking about you positively. and if they start thinking about you positively, your name starts standing out in social, so when you go online in vrc they join on you. they no longer care if you're "popular" or not. they just know you're a person that makes them happy so they want to be around you and see what you're doing.

I swear to god this isn't rocket science, there are 8 year olds that figure this stuff out.