>>280280496
There are two game modes in VRChat over the long term: attention-whoring and content creation. 
If you don't have the time, discipline, and skills to stay at the cutting edge of map, avatar, and shader creation, you're stuck hanging out with the attention whores.
You can make friends and chill with them occasionally, but anyone who isn't playing either of the longer-term games eventually burns out and stops logging in.