Imagine if your VRFU was going to crawboil and you weren't... 
The bonds you make in person at these things are stronger than anything you can make in vr or in discord. Has your vrfu shown you their face? Do you know what they really look like and feel like? How they look when they laugh in real life.. What their smile looks like... What they smell like...
Everyone at crawboil will but you won't. Sad. 
So why didn't you buy $3000 worth of international return flights to new york to be with your vrfu irl anon?