>>358656069
Hate to victim blame here, but that's what happens when a person focuses on people who do lewd shit, fall in love, and so on. 
I've seen this pattern happen so many times. It's not that the community is emotionally immature and/or manipulative, it's that the "victim" spent all their time concentrating on those people in the community who are those things. There are plenty of chill people that just want to hang out.

This is just what happens when you fall into lewder circles or give attention to orbiters instead of trying to build actual friendships with the chill people.
I don't know Phythia, I wish them well. I also hope they read this advice and take it to heart.