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>I just feel like they are too far away from me maybe? 
They could be if your room is pretty big.
>in VRchat my fingers on avatars don't track properly
That can happen even under ideal conditions. It's partly VRChat not recalibrating the finger tracking correctly and partly the finger tracking being a little janky.
>I can't seem to get a good grip on the things so that my pinkie and index finger align properly with real life.
I can't post the link, but you can use Valve's Index Fit Guide to help get things adjusted.