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ask yourself something different: are you doing stuff for them only because you expect something in return?

if that's the case, then seriously, just stop.

when I message someone I never ask myself if this person will message me back or not. I just message them because I thought it would be fun to share a thing with them.

if you didn't have fun doing the act itself and you're just doing it because you expect a future thing to happen that you have no contract and no promise that it will happen... seriously. don't. expectations lead to disappointment.

you'll feel a lot more "real" and like "real friends" if just doing stuff together with the other person feels fun by itself and you have no long term expectations. over time you'll just coincidentally run into people who feel the same about you and you'll both be messaging each other with no return expectation, just because doing the thing itself is fun