Even the fact that you have "common ground" to stand on, shared values, this solidarity, this sense of "community" and identity you claim you belong to, is in itself, just an attempt to be "normal" - you want to create your own standard for normalicy by creating a little microcosm where you can live out that illusion in comfort, and whenever any foreign body invades that comfort zone, you sperg the fuck out and defend your territory. Naturally so, nobody should fault you for doing that, it's important to defend yourself and fight for what you believe in.

At the end of the day, this is a war. You're just on the losing side of it, that's all. And naturally, as your enemy, I don't care about how much it offends or hurts you. I'm getting what I want out of it, and that's all that matters. :^)