>>328526240
Be forward with people and lay shit out to begin with. Simply tell them you're not into a relationship but if they want to be intimate you're cool with that; then move on from there. Trust me, there can be PLENTY of intimacy and emotions even with people you're clear about not doing the vrfu meme with. (vrfu is a meme). 
So long as you can make it clear that what you want is to have your heart race whenever they're near and gently touching you but not commit you'll find people okay with that.