I love all you shy wallflower anons very much. Thank you for sticking around even if you feel ignored. It's okay to have a quiet voice and the relaxed conversations I have with some of you are the best part of this "game" for me. There isn't a need to force extroversion to fit in, just pay it forward and find others who are shy or that are more laid back and don't worry so much about befriending absolutely everyone. 
Also, you know if vrchat stresses you out you should try joining the thread events and games sometimes they usually have either a more relaxed or jovial atmosphere and it's easier to bond when your doing something together.