>>332337436
>join weekend meetup
>too many people trying to interact with too many people, actual interactions are basically social vignettes
>bounce between 4 or 5 instances until the alcohol takes me

>weekday meetups
>small, intimate affairs, 6 to 10 people max
>actual discussion and friendship, shenanigans and adventure ensue, harass normies in public instances

your expectations are out of alignment with the actuality of the situation. Show up on weekdays without any airs or fake persona BS and you'll make friends you'll be able to pal around with at big meets.