>>319010107
Sure, but that's still an insight because like 85% of the time, the knee jerk reaction is the correct one for most mundane social interactions. You don't have to follow SOCIETY'S norms, but following the norms of your "tribe" is a completely normal human thing to do, it's a patterning in our genes that exists for our mutual survival. We all adopt memes and shit with each other, because doing things together and fitting in together as a group is fun and feels good, we've just extended it to all social interactions, in person and in vr "tribes". It's just human nature. 
The fact that you can discuss it and be retrospective is just a sign of your intelligence: be proud of that but realize that being an edgelord and angry all the time is a juvenile and cringy thing to do, and you'll only find other edgelords out there if you stay like that. Learning to let things slide or not worrying so much is a sign of maturity. 
Let yourself go once and a while and have a laugh. There's nothing degenerate or "normie" about fitting in. There's all kinds of people everyone would be happy to "fit in" with more, I'm sure. If you don't get along with certain members of your group, start a group centered around the things and people you wanna chill with. 
>>319010714
also this. Extremely empathic people do it more, it's again, a sign of intelligence. People with more mirror neurons are better learners, better leaders because they understand the feelings of others, and are generally of a higher level of general intelligence. Same genes responsible for higher level reasoning.