>>280280496
it's just the crowd you roll with. 
the people I hang out with are so big brained with coding and generally super artistic with 3d that it's super intimidating to even hang out since I don't have the time to dedicate to that in vrchat much: but we tend to get along well either way. 
Just find a group into what you're into, go to an event or two. VRChat has 8000-16000 unique players every hour of every day. I'm sure you'll find someone to talk with.