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have you ever been approached while with a friend in a conversation by a total stranger? it feels a bit uncomfortable.

how about being approached by someone when you're all alone and they try to strike up a conversation? also kind of weird - easier, for sure, but something feels weird about suddenly talking to a stranger out of nowhere, totally alone with them.

if they don't think you look very interesting, or something about you (very autistic sounding, etc) turns them off socially they might be afraid to get into a real conversation because once you start talking they'll be beholden to stick around and hear you out. if you just don't stop talking they'll have to awkwardly excuse themselves away and lots of people are too polite to do that, so they'll just avoid getting into a convo in the first place to avoid awkwardness.

ultimately, you just have to learn how to talk when it's your turn to speak in group convos, not run up to people in one-on-one conversations and expect them to suddenly involve you in them, etc...

all these things are natural impulses, things most people recognize if they aren't autistic. if you are, that's fine. it's just a fact, i don't mean it as an insult like many here. but autistic people can be hard to conversate with. they can't read the room, speak too loudly or abruptly or go on tangents, make awkward jokes constantly, etc... it's even harder to read the atmosphere in vrchat because it's virtual, so if you already have trouble in real life it's naturally going to be even harder to read social cues.

if you're just awkward and shy and not autistic, then just try to relax. It sounds like you're really eager to get into a convo and make friends but you need to respect social norms and read the room.