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Don't try to debut in large meetups. If you go exclusively to large meets, as I did, no-one will even remember seeing you. I still get people I've seen for over 2.5 years claiming they've never seen me before, or people I had spoken to the previous week claiming I hadn't been on in 'months'. You end up having a series of <1 minute interactions before they run off to the friends they've logged in to see specifically, with long periods of trying to find anyone else available between. If you try to join one of the existing groups in the room, then it's an absolute battle to make any input at all and you'll usually just get overridden by someone else, unless you have very strong skills.

Smaller meets inherently have less divided attention, so it's much easier to make any input you want and you'll be more memorable. There's more opportunities to unmute and talk to one or two people, instead of having to address a large group. It is best to set your expectations low, persist through perceived failure, and take opportunities when they present themselves, rather than trying to force a goal, which might not be achievable due to the conditions that day.