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>as if nobody involved has agency of their own
This is a major pain point here. We're all adults that can decide on our own on what to do with our time. Stop trying to remove agency from your "friend". Sure inform them, but never assume that you can directly tell them what to do and not do. And even if the other person is not your friend, that goes doubly true. Who the fuck are you to tell them (and more importantly, limit them) on what they can do with their time?