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friends happen when you spend enough time around people who get along with you and who you get along with, sometimes people already have so many friends they barely have time for the ones they have so that can be an issue
meetups are great in the sense that even if you don't have a go to friend there as long as they are open to people you can hang out with them too, not all friendships have to be one piece nakama tier, you could try to brave the public instances for other people who have yet to find their friend group but you would have to shovel through a lot of "shit"
some people are lonesome for a good reason and usually that reason is they expect everyone else to make a compromise while acting like peacocks, refuse to make friends with boring people while being boring themselves etc
there is no script on how to make friends, you just find people who you click with and who you enjoy spending time with as much as they enjoy spending time with you
tldr; bee yourself and people like you will come to you