>>280293356
this mystical thing you're waiting for doesn't exist, nor will it ever. 
Vrchat on the other hand allows you to make literally anything in any style you want and you don't have to invite anyone who doesn't fit or allow anyone in that doesn't fit. And it does it for free, with full body tracking support, free fast hosting, voice chat, 64 player instances (maybe more eventually) a programming language, and little to zero restrictions on shaders, polycount or mesh formats. 

Neos is similar in that way. The only thing that comes close to maybe what you're looking for is Sansar, but I'm sure the art style you won't like.

You're not going to get something tailor made for you unless you make it yourself, and vrchat allows you to do that without learning literally every aspect of game design and vr integration first. 
Why push a rolling stone uphill?