Whenever I pick up my coffee and sip from it and its too hot, I get scalded and recoil immediately, blowing gently or giving it time to cool a little before I continue drinking it and enjoying it.

Is not the experience of anger the same principle? Is it not an unpleasant feeling, painfully hot and distracting from the enjoyment of your life? Do you not treat it the same way, stopping and giving yourself time to cool a little, before you resume whatever calm behavior you were previously doing that was briefly disrupted by it?