>>315810275
I'm not out of it, yet, but have made some progress. I started considering everything as 'would I do this?' and found a lot of the things I expected others to do, I wasn't doing myself. Largely, just expecting others to come to me, or giving someone a token amount of attention which I wouldn't consider sufficient to care about them at all myself.

Also, other people can detect your state of mind, even if you never say anything about it or do anything obvious that would indicate it. If you are depressed, people will avoid you. If you feel confident but don't even do anything differently, people will approach you. I have no idea how it works. Maybe something I'm too autistic to detect. In other words, you genuinely have to change your own state of mind, not just suppress complaints or even doubts in your own mind.