>>357241152
I think this would always be the case. I went to a meetup for the first time about 2 weeks after they started and felt like it was already too late. Then I blamed it on private instances, then discord servers, then real life meet ups, and so on. Ultimately I had to accept that I never really did anything but sit around on my own expecting others to come to me and didn't even log in that often. Even when I tried to change that, I didn't put in nearly enough effort.

Maybe /trash/ is a shortcut to popularity, but blaming it for everything is most likely just masking your own failures.