I heard rumors there was a Koikatsu IK node mod for VR around 2 years ago but could never find it. Someone finally managed to get it from the Japs. Allows you to reposition the male and female IK, have tracked hands, and control the animation with controller movement. Not the easiest to use, but gives you similar levels of control to VAM, without the major autism required.

https://mega.nz/file/RPpCDKIa#RRb_kYaRrrIqtDyojm3U2BVU_0dgin7B5nNCzXTvVQo

https://github.com/MayouKurayami/KK_SetParentVR