>>321443097
How can I put in effort when I don't know what the seemingly fundamental problem is?

>>321443085
I spent all of 2020 working on trying to involve other people in things, rather than expecting them to involve me, but just got hundreds of rejections. Not random people, but the handful of people who would at least send a DM occasionally which is the highest level of interest I've ever had from anyone. Some would occasionally say they wanted to see my in VRchat but would never agree of a time, never tell me when they were online, and if I invited them when I was online they'd just delay logging in for hours and hours until it was way too late. Sometimes I'd find out they had logged in, knew I was online at the same time, but not bothered to come to the same instance. In the rare moments I actually caught them, they'd greet me then immediately go to their main group.

I spent months helping someone with a model, but they didn't seem interested in communicating at all once we'd finished with that. I suggested a game to someone, they said they weren't interested, then bought it a few days later because someone else suggested it. I helped a few people with problems they were having but it was a case of as soon as the conversation is over they have no need to speak to me again. I tried simply regularly messaging a few people but it became obviously onesided after a while and as soon as I stopped they never sent me another message.

What else can I possibly do?