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>join big meetup
>no one knows where did you came from since place is filled with random friends of friends
>haha shots cheers
>engage in doing same shit as everyone else, maybe awkwardly join some conversation
>next day, some people accept you as a furniture that says cheers when everyone else does
>maybe have a real conversation one day
vs
>join during quiet hours
>small circle of people looks at you, wave
>wave back, anons know you've joined for a reason, your intent to hang around together is clearly defined
>and of course no one wants to exclude anyone, especially newfriend who joined dead hours
>"hey, you new around?"
>talk about yourself
>talk about anons
>talk about the place
>talk about vr
>go exploring or whatever
>have fun while being recognized as a human being

it used to be a common knowledge that when some newfriend pops up, you should make him some space and maybe encourage a bit. now it's hard to keep doing that because meetups are so huge, loud, and many new people turn out not to be interested in knowing you at all. joining calm hours is definitely a good thing to try, because by doing that you flag yourself as one of us, as a guy who purposefully joined this particular instance in order to vrg around

neither option guarantees getting what you want, but calm hours are definitely no worse than party hours. possibly better