>>321695602
Well, I won't say it's a surefire recipe for successful lobbies, but I do think a lot of people get it wrong, where their only post is a 'join game, pass 1234' and that's it. There's a lot of extrinsic factors as well, both the low quantity of actually good multiplayer VR games, and the number of people who lurk this awfully undermoderated thread and board who again aren't already in their own "inner circle" friend group. I.e. don't take it personally, and keep trying. 

To your second point, yes, if you want to make pseudonymous friends, an anonymous imageboard is not the place to develop those, except as a stepping stone. And I don't think there's anything bad about that; just need to temper your expectations accordingly.