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> I just get caught in the "oh, I'm dropping frames, better hide all randos like this guy"
Here's the two ways anyone can hide people: Either manually, or automatically through the safety settings. The former most people do rarely because it's work and you have to be really annoying for people to care enough to do this work to hide you - and if they hide someone but someone else talks to that person, they don't know what's going on, and people don't like experiencing that, so there's another reason not to hide someone at least fully ("block"). 
The latter depends on certain thresholds, all of which can be passed, like being below a certain count of a certain avatar property (e.g. dynamic bone count) or being at a certain rank (e.g. trusted/friend).

> On one hand I know I should be the one starting conversations and shit, on the other I just feel like it's gonna be the same like always. One-sided conversations, will end the moment I stop bothering too.
I disagree that you are the one that "should" start conversations. That's the most effective way to keep a specific conversation better, yes, but in the end a conversation is a mutual exchange. A giving and taking, a back and forth. If it doesn't work out even after investing your time, you can always try with other people. You don't have to be friends with everyone, though maybe you could be later.

However, I believe that there's someone you'd like to spend your time with and who at the same time likes to spend their time with you for everyone. You just have to find them, but if you don't keep trying, you can't find them.