>>333133528
Trust me it feels like special attention because you like it so much. It's probably just normal attention. Also I'd highly recommend forgetting monogamy. If you want more special time from them, ask them to hang out together. chances are they'll be like "okay sure" and it'd be hard to arrange a time and place.
My best advice overall is definitely try and get them to help you get over it. VR relationships are a big shitpile of mess since everyone is male and everyone is a cute girl at the same time.