What perpetuates the circle of complaining is that reach person doing the complaining perceives the other people as inferior, foolish, insert dismissive attitude. Nobody approaches it without anger. You're just picking fights, you're not "helping" anyone. Trying to dissociate from the annoying behavior is not addressing it, it's just passive aggressive cope. It'll never go away, because parents don't know how to raise kids these days. The statistics show that there are more anxious and avoidant adults now than ever before in history. It used to be about 55% secure attachment adults, 45% insecure (anxious or avoidant or both), but now it's closer to 50/50. You have a coin flip chance with every single person you meet that they were neglected by their parents and learned to cope with that neglect by becoming the attention seeking adults they are now (anxious-ambivalent) or the "I'm so mature and self reliant, you faggots are pathetic" (dismissive-avoidant) types. And then there's the ones who do both (fearful-avoidant), seeking attention by being assholes to other people because they're terrified of how badly they want to depend on someone that won't let them down.