>>345082161
unironically MOST erpers want to have cuddling, talking, flirting; all the play-relationship stuff. this includes pub just-h erpers (they're just too scared to do it).
if you find a lot of "nut-and-run" types so far, i think you've just been unlucky. it shouldn't be hard to find better.

Hint:
trash meetups are usually rushed, so there will be comparatively more nut-and-run. instead, (and this is MUCH more fun, anyways), catch someone's eye at a regular meetup, flirt a bit, and see if you can't run off to a private when the chance comes.
the experience is electric.