Anyone else been totally caught off-guard having a particular view of someone and then suddenly finding out that they're actually quite different? I had an impression of a quiet, reserved wallflower and felt that I was someways closer to them, only to find out they have their own discord server and you're not invited because they can't invite _everyone_ of the hundreds of people on their friends list.

I continue to kill my feelings in order to stay sane and not just alienate everyone but fuck me. Do people not see how making these discord servers hurts the people who aren't in them (especially in the case where it's surprising that they have one to begin with)? Honest question - I really don't understand the thinking behind it.