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the skyrimvr subreddit has a google doc that outlines the list of essentials for VR. if you use mod organizer 2 or vortex, installing the mods is 1 click away.
beyond that list, you can simply install any Special Edition mod for the VR version and it should work. Some mods mention that they don't work with VR or have a separate VR version (this is mostly script extender mods), so keep an eye out for that.
if a mod installer gives you the option between, say, 4k/2k or 2k/1k textures, pick the lower option. your vram will thank you.