Any take other than "I don't care where we are as long as we're together" is a bad take. I don't know which platform will be better in the end. Vrchat does seem to be on the road to further monetization and the devs have been jerks, but it's also much more complete and stable than ChilloutVR. I think the most intelligent position to take right now is to be ready to pivot to either but to go where people are.

There will be shills trying to convince you to use one platform or the other, don't listen to them. There will be people inflaming things just because they think console wars would be funny. Don't listen to them either. Just let "what's best for the community" be your guiding principle.