if more people took the attitude of nurturing towards the community we would have less people awkwardly standing in corners and more people chatting up confidently, understand that these people have a handicap when it comes to socialization and give them leeway for it
that is if being helpful towards others gives you pleasure, to me i find it pleasant to see that i have helped someone become more open and social and even if it never bears fruit and they still remain anxious about social stuff it doesn't really matter in the end since just being helpful to them is a reward by itself it makes me feel like i am doing something good, you should try doing something good and getting your feel good chemicals from that