>>335836262
you were honest with your feelings and told them your requirements and desires for a long term thing through dating, i think you did the right thing even if it falls apart at least you let them know how you feel about it
>>335836264
if they already picked you then it is up to you to keep them around, ask them to agree that your two's thing is long term plan and then commit to that, if they break that commitment they are oathbreaker, if they refuse that then they are using you as fwb and you should cut them off for your own long term good