>>269078020
Unironically though it's only gay if you're getting off to a guy. Getting off WITH a guy isn't gay and getting off to a girl (anime) controlled by a guy also isn't gay even if they're getting off to the thought of you being a guy doing sexual things with them. 
I mean if you were legitimately fooled by a trap and honestly did not know you were fucking a dude, and were only fucking them because they looked and acted like a cute girl, it's not gay either because you don't like guys and wouldn't willingly fuck a guy. That in itself proves you can do gay shit (like fucking a guy IRL) without being gay so why you'd even care about masturbating to an anime girl in vr being gay or not is beyond me.