vrchat is a weird beast but you can learn to navigate it. i dont let people find me sexually attractive (non sexual avatars, deny advances, etc) and always male-ify myself to "fit in" as best i can, as i only want them to be my friend and hopefully they feel the same and no more. i know boy's club is a thing and i know my place socially, as sometimes some places i'm not really able to "fit into" and let guys be comfortable amongst themselves. it's kind of sucky, but i know it's the right thing to do, and people appreciate it even if they don't say so. i've been told trannies and femboys are more feminine than me and that means the plan working. i wouldn't want to be treated like a woman because of the negative rep they get. the big problem that comes with feminine entities (trannies, femboys, actual women) is acting like a woman, which disturbs the "just dudes bein dudes" comradery most people have here. as long as you don't act like a woman in boys club, people like you, and it just Works. just my two cents
[spoiler]i just want to make fun avatars and be a goofball with my buddies. [/spoiler]
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