I've noticed something very interesting with people in VRChat. If I act nice and friendly to everyone, try engaging and talking to them, show interest in them, no one likes me, no one wants to talk to me or hang out, sometimes get flat out ignored. But if I act disinterested, busy and keep diverting attention elsewhere I am WAY more likely to be engaged and have people want my attention. Not everyone likes that of course, but overall I still get way more attention that way. Which sucks because I'd love to devote my attention to people and have proper conversations or friendships.
What's even stranger is that if I remove someone I never see and they never shown interest in talking to me, next opportunity they will tell me how much they like me and want to be friends, yet if I agree instead of brushing them off they will go back to never interacting with me in any way again and dismiss me if I approach them.
I just wish I could have meaningful friends instead of needing to play these mind games, basically be an ass and never properly engage with people on my friends list to see them more than twice.