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the sad truth is that maybe you just weren't good enough for them. it's not that you're not good in general, but you're just too different. I'm like that. I try to be a real friend to everybody that talks to me, but as a result a lot of people like talking to me, and I end up having to deal with 20-30 people who want to be with me all the time. but I don't have enough free time for that many people, so inevitably I end up having to cut out the ones who are less good than others, that is, have less stuff in common with me that is fun for me to spend time on

it's not that I don't like the less good people, I really wish I had time for them too, but I don't and I can't sacrifice myself for them. at the end of the day a person has a limited capacity for how many friends they can have, so if you don't hold some special value for them and someone else does, you're going to be gradually pushed away

you need to make a conscious decision - if you want this real friend to pay more attention to you, think what you can do to bring more value to their life, what do they like that they're missing and you can give, etc. or alternatively, decide it's not worth it, and that you two are just too different and as unfortunate as it is you'll just have to look for other good friends that are more similar to you

sometimes even if you're both good people you just don't have enough chemistry to get along. this is fine. keep searching for like-minded people