>Getting upset over being asked "how are you"
Come on now, overthinking that is genuinely autistic.
It's not even about whether it makes sense as a meaningful conversation starter or not, but pretending you're too smart for common politeness is its own red flag.
Don't blame the people around you for your own awkwardness and feeling like you need to use it as a hook to discuss the next thing.
Do so if you have something to add or pick up talking about something else. Just don't be a fucking sperg.