>>372458478
wanting the other person to be happy is just sympathy, obsessing over someone is what most would call love in the shakesperian sense, in most of the olde timey plays and stories about love it is described as overpowering emotion that defies logic and makes you act like a jackass just to be with them, being apart from the other person is enough to drive the other into suicide and stuff, that's obsessive and no one in this place is going to flip their shit over not being able to be with the one they "love"
love isn't a pretty emotion unless you both share it, it is in fact very grubby and clammy emotion when one sided, only when it's two sided do you get to see the real lust fueled monkeys eating each others faces and blabbering incoherent confessions of love to each other while touching as much of the other as humanly possible
most people never know "love" so they just call whatever tepid shit emotion draws them to like someone love instead, the odds of you finding someone who actually loves you as it is described in the old plays is small to none as mutual thing