>>403139612
Yes, I can hold both positions simultaneously. 
If there is going to be a main group, I'd like to be the one holding the reins. It's equally acceptable if there isn't a main group and people are able to do what they want. 
Doesn't matter to me which happens - what does matter to me is that the meets continue to be friends+ and that the group isn't used aggressively as a gatekeeping tool.
It is unacceptable if there's a big group and it's controlled by someone who wants to do group only meets while also controlling who is in the group. Low barrier of entry and ease of access for new people is pretty essential to the continued health of the group.