>blah blah leaderfag blah
Unironically stop participating in discords. By joining groups made by these individuals you are promoting them to a higher value than they actually are. Just make instances in the thread when you want to host something. The reason why most of the high quality community members barely attend regular meets is because it's currently overinflated. I'd rather be in a small 10 person instance hanging out with thread bros than a laggy 50+ instance where you don't know who is who.