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groomer: tries to lewd people they don't like just to be able to say they lewded another person (also known as "trophy lewding")

normal person: has standards and preferences, only lewds with people they actually like and just for the fun of doing something enjoyable together, and not for the purpose of incrementing a counter or bragging

the reason people are mad about groomers is because they tend to be dishonest to achieve their goal. i.e. instead of coming up to someone and straight up telling them "hey I don't actually find you attractive or interesting, but lets erp just once so that I can say we erp'd once" and letting you decide if you're ok with that or not, they pretend like you matter to them until they get what they wanted and then backpedal and reveal their lies

there's nothing wrong with being horny, but it's not okay to lie and deceive people