>>314585186
see if people drift away after or during your talking, if you're talking to a person in a pile and everyone else slowly drifts away you might need to tone it down, if the person you're talking to suddenly has to go mid talk then you really need to tone it down
apart from obvious cases like that you literally need to have normal people telepathy to see if you're being annoying or not, if you're autistic then you'll notice if you're being consistently annoying by your friendslist getting shorter each day, tough luck and carry that weight