>>359031542
sorry to break this for you anon but I'm one of those popular people myself.

people having a preference and wanting to be with someone over others and only being with those others when that someone isn't around is completely normal. if you have multiple options, obviously you'll want the best one.

it's not random choice.
it's not old popular friends.
it IS logging in a lot.

there I times I don't log on a lot and I instantly stop being popular and people just forget me, and there are times I log on for 6 hours every day and suddenly everybody wants to join on me regularly and talks to me a lot even outside of VRChat.

so there you have it. be online a lot, join everyone on your social, ask them how they're doing, if anybody joins you say hi and be nice. do this for a week and you'll be "popular". this isn't hard and I'd like to say "anyone can do it" but I've seen people that actually struggle with basic conversation stuff like just saying hello to a friend who joins on them.

if you make someone feel welcome they'll want to be with you more. if you make someone feel ignored they'll want to be with you less. this really isn't rocket science. just ask yourself what makes you want to join others then be that thing yourself

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what bothers me personally is how my brain autocompletes stuff I don't know about people based on their avatar. that's just kind of twisted