I've been in a couple relationships with women in the past, but at this point I realized I don't care, I just want to cuddle, relax and be comfortable. IRL it comes with expectations and emotional investment. 
My favorite part of vrchat is that I get headpats and can get comfy freely. 
I'm worried about what people think of it though. I don't want to lewd, just be comfy and cuddle with some occasional nibbles and kisses. Do people expect lewds at some point? How do I signal to people I want more than just headpats but not to lewd.